Welcome to the Ask for the Skinny Podcast. Today I don't have a guest. I want to thank each and every one of you for being my listener. I want to thank you for joining me on my way of self-discovering and on my way of interviewing over hundreds of different authors of book, coaches, therapists, doctors, and they all have a common denominator. Either they have been through burnout and recover somehow, or they have written a book about burnout or a life story or how to get back on track if something bad happens to you in or if something happens that derails your life and how to go about it. And I must thank everyone for sharing their wisdom with you, my audience. And while interviewing them, I have learned so much, so much about myself, about what I do, because I'm a coach as well. I will let a link down below if you want to get on a coaching session with me, and I have I help high performers set boundaries and make chaos out of the situation that is out in this world today. And interviewing other experts, I have learned so much. I have saw a lot of my shortcomings where I could help my clients so much more and be a better coach, more useful coach, something that can offer higher value. I've as you see, I'm always uh in a library, and I have two libraries in my own house. Um and I'm I'm a huge fan of books. That is why I include um link to every author's so every author that I interview, I always include link to his or her uh book in the description below, and you can check the episodes, the other episodes where we have guests, and you can always order their book. Most of them selling on Amazon, some they sell on their own uh page, and some they give uh they give free book to our listeners. And what I would like to share is the most important lessons that I believe I have learned from conducting this 200 through this series of uh almost 200 interviews now, and one of them is that we have societal induced goals, and most of us don't understand or didn't have a clue when growing up what that these are not our goals. We were certain that these are our goals, we we were not aware that these are the goals from the society around us, from our family, from our friends, from our circles. These are not our inherited goals. This is not who we are, this is who others expect us to be. And especially if we are highly successful, when we reach this success, when we reach all these societal induced goals, we feel empty and we want to do something else, or if we don't reach the goals, we burn out, and we see that we have burned out for the goals that are not really ours, and that is another frustration that we have to handle. And midlife crisis starts. There are a lot of um triggers to midlife crisis. One is where when our or people close to us start dying because of the age, and we have to handle that grief and understand that the constellation around us has changed and that we have to adapt. Then our profession, because professions are evolving so fast, professions uh change and we are no longer on top of our game, or maybe we are, but we don't feel satisfied, or there's too much work to handle, there's too much things to do, and another thing that I have learned during these interviews is how important is family. I was brought up by um thinking family first and stuff like that, but uh in the actual world, for me, work was first. Uh, family was first just uh when declaring it. But if uh I check, if I look back on my schedule, um there was all always time for business, and almost never time for uh family. So, how important is my family if uh business is my first priority? So my family cannot be first priority as well. So the balance between family life, friends, and business, and of course, time for ourselves is important, is is is a key role how to get out of burnout or even avoid it altogether. And when we go into midlife crisis, it's extremely traumatic for most of us, and then with this trauma we can then have post-traumatic uh symptoms, and getting out of these post-traumatic symptoms and uh learning to live a new life, a different life, more adapted to our inner goals, not societal in these goals, and more adapted to what we are able or capable of doing because of our bodies, because of our health. Uh and when I say health, I will be a bit conservative here. I I'm talking about physical and mental health. Uh we're not trained to sense our uh balance or imbalances, and um in society today we spend or most of society, especially high performers like yourself, we spend most of our times in do or die situation or in survival mode as it's popularly called. And what I have learned is that decision making is completely different in survival mode than if we are in a safe mode. If we feel safe, we are able to make much better decisions, decisions that will benefit us. We are able to go with the flow, not against the flow, in order to come to another site. We're able to use wisdom, we're able to connect to nature, to infinite wisdom when we are safe. But when we are in survival mode, we have to use our intelligence, we have to we have to rely on our cognitive abilities, and in it's impossible that we would not to go to the end of our cognitive abilities and just burn out because today's world is a flood of information and disinformation, and we we we don't know how this flood will wash us on which side, and then we we're just panicking, and we're not able to use our internal compass to steer our life in the direction that we want to go in, and often the grinding culture that is so omnipresent in our environment takes us away, and instead of taking a step back, taking a vacation, think about things before we act, we act and then think about consequences. We believe that opportunities are limited, not limitless. We believe that the partners or the pool of potential partners is limited, not limitless. We believe that the job market is limited, not limitless, and all this just because we are in survival mode, and we don't let the good things come to ourselves because we are fighting so vigorously with what we see. We see so much injustice into the world in this world, and we don't see all the opportunities. We tend to have a comment on everything we see outside ourselves, but most of these comments are sarcastics, uh yes, are sarcastic sarcastic and they are pessimistic, and that is also a clear sign that we are in survival mode because when we are in safe mode, when we're not going towards burnout, when we are improving our fitness and our health, we tend to see the whole world in a positive light. We tend to see the future as an opportunity, not as a threat. Thank you again for all your comments, and I would also like to thank all my guests for sharing their wisdom. If you would like to work with me on avoiding burnout for you, your co-workers, or on setting boundaries and resetting your life. I'm inviting you to get in contact, ask me more, tell me about your problem, and we'll find a solution. I am a huge fan of free content, and free content is what this podcast is all about. We don't have paid content on this podcast, and I don't plan to do it. There might be an agency forcing me to do it, but right now we have everything is for free. These are free resources because I believe that the journey of self-discovery starts with a doubt. What if something is wrong? We're not convinced yet, we're doubting, we are doubting that everything is right, and then we're we start exploring, and because we're not certain that we have to change things yet, we start exploring, we start following podcasts, we start reading self-discovery or self-help books, we start attending different Zoom meetings that are free, we start attending workshops, and only then, if and when we are ready for the next step, we get a mentor, we get a therapist, we get a coach, someone that will help us see the blind spots, because we can follow instructions in every book, and we can still fall short of the results, and if that is the case, then we need someone else as an accountability partner to tell us what are our blind spots, what are the shades that we don't see, what are the things that we don't want to see, what are the things that we don't want to change, but we'll have to do something about it if we want different outcomes. So, thank you again for starting this journey of self-discovering. Thank you again for letting me be part of your self-discovering and self-improving journey, and welcome to contact all our guests. If you want to work with me on your journey, feel free. There's a reservation, a link to reservation. Uh you can reserve time with me. The link will be in the description below. So, congratulate yourself. You have started a journey, there's a doubt in yourself, and you're on a good way to change yourself, your future, and the future of every one of us, because by changing ourselves, we change the world. Thank you, thank you again for listening to my podcast, thank you again for being my follower, and thank you again for all the comments, likes, and dislikes.